Don’t Pull Out Your Penis On a First Date

I was recently sent a message by a submissive man on Fetlife who detailed a laundry list of ways he had fantasized about me humiliating and degrading him.

While we had messaged quite a bit a few years back, we certainly did not have an ongoing relationship, or the type of relationship where I would ever entertain the idea of interacting with him in a sexual manner.

After I informed him that his message was not a good way to approach the situation and invited him to take my FLR Training For Men so that he could understand what he was doing wrong, he proceeded to insult me, my work and my character. He then went on to leave public messages discrediting my work with Conquer Him and my character in general.

I am sharing this as an example of unacceptable behavior, but also to let you know how behaving in this way is sincerely harmful to a woman’s decision to give FLR a chance.

After enough of these type of messages where the man shares kink after kink, a woman feels as though all she is expected to do is cater to his kinks. I have coached many women who shared that before taking my course, they had been flat out against the idea of a FLR because of the way they had been approached by men. These men introduce FLR as though it is entirely comprised of protocols, chastity and punishments. Female Led Relationships are so much more than that. None of those things are the basic elements of FLR.

When you approach a woman by offering kinks as the basic element of FLR you are giving FLR a bad name. You will never meet any woman with value by approaching her with your kinks in your hand.

Here is the truth about the kink-based approach to meeting women.

If a woman is not emotionally connected or physically attracted to you, she does not want to hear about your fantasies about her. She especially does not want to hear how you want her to service you. The majority of women do not have fantasies of dominating men forcefully, especially if they are not sadists.

The acts of domination and indulgence in kink between a couple is an expression of love. If there is no love (or even attraction) the mere mention of dominating a man or fulfilling his kinks makes women feel disgusted and dirty and it is highly offensive.

When you send a woman who does not know you or care for you a list of ways you want her to degrade, humiliate or provoke your sexual arousal through kink, it’s like pulling your penis out on a first date, during dinner, in a crowded restaurant.

No woman wants to see that.

Stop doing that shit.

Save your kinks until she asks about them.

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