I Gain Strength From Demonstrating Obedience
I wanted to express a few feelings and sentiments regarding the often contentious issues of ‘obedience’ and ‘polyandry’ within the context of a committed FLR. As it happens, both these ideas work well for us and have contributed to our mutual love and respect but they are not easy concepts to embrace. Nor are they one dimensional. They are multi-layered and there is sub-text to them. The cold clinical definitions are probably not enough to sustain a long-term FLR and to search for the delights to be discovered in their deeper meaning probably requires time and patience. A lot of it.
Obedience, for example, goes far beyond command and obey. It can be that but, for us at least, it’s probably a whole lot more. My Lady encourages me to discuss most things with her, sometimes for days, and to offer my opinions where appropriate. I do all I can to help her arrive at the best decision. Once made, her decision is final and she expects and appreciates my immediate attentiveness. I want to honour her wishes. She understands, accepts and nurtures my belief in the formidable power of her feminine intelligence and thus takes her leadership role seriously and conscientiously. She regards my obedience to her as a precious gift, one she likes to have on display.
We are a triad of sorts. I have mentioned before on the Conquer Him site that my Lady has a devoted lover who is much younger than myself and who continues to be an increasingly important part of our lives. Although I certainly accept that this kind of 3-way relationship isn’t going to work for everybody, it has been a blessing for us. It has enabled her to express herself creatively as a sensual confident woman and to enjoy being the Goddess to her attentive ‘boys’.
I’m not sure if it makes me a cuckold or not, the definition has always been unclear to me. We don’t have a 3-way sexual relationship, in fact we males don’t see each other very often. Her lover lives a short distance away. When she wants to be with him he will usually come here and collect her, they’ll go out then back to his place. Occasionally they will come back here and she’ll direct me to sleep in the spare room. She has led me to appreciate the complexities of her needs and emotions, the importance of keeping them close to my heart and soul and how best to utilize all that she has taught me in order to become a better, more submissive servant to her.
Also, I gain great strength – spiritually, emotionally and otherwise – from demonstrating my complex obedience to her infinitely more complex, intelligent and articulate directives, wishes and mere whims, and from seeing her natural dominance over me bloom so beautifully each time she embraces her lover in my presence.
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Very well expressed. I agree that a woman has a complex personality and multi-faceted emotions, more so than men who generally tend to have a more simple range of emotions. While a man is usually a fairly straightforward being, a woman is many women rolled into an enigmatic swirl of contradicting identities. Most men are either dominant or submissive with very little variation from that core makeup, but many dominant women have both dominant and submissive needs demanding fulfillment. that is why a woman can be an angel of purity one moment and an outrageous whore at another. She rarely shows all her complexities to the same man. With one man, she wants to be the dominant goddess, while with another she desires to be the submissive slut. That is why a poly relationship (or triad) works so well for many women, who are much more complex in their emotional needs and personalities than most men. It’s not wrong, it’s just reality, and sometimes we have to accept it as such. .
You are extremely lucky. To be in a FLR w// a woman you love and she has a younger lover. That is my ideal scenario. You make me believe its possible
Thankyou both for your kind comments. We feel that respect and love for the complexities of the Feminine Divine lies at the heart of a beautiful FLR. I’ve been fortunate to have a wonderful teacher, one who has disciplined and led me not with whips and chains but with grace and intelligence.
Ronae, you are absolutely correct, a woman’s needs and emotions are so wonderfully complex and varied that one man can rarely meet them. We discussed this at length (and still do) and it was her decision to take a lover. Their relationship is becoming long-term and they are deeply committed to each other. He is a bright young man, dedicated to pleasing her.
James, believe it is possible.
Frankie, you are a very intuitive partner for this wonderful woman. You are so lucky to have her motivating and guiding you in your life. It is often very difficult for men to recognize, acknowledge, and accept that the woman they love and adore is an emotionally and intellectually complex goddess who may require and deserve the love of more than one partner to fulfill all her womanly needs. If he sometimes doesn’t understand the mysterious ways of his goddess, a man should nevertheless continue to love and accept her decisions in matters of partnerships because his ultimate goal in life is ever her happiness. Remembering that thought will see him through… love her and trust her always. She will not fail you.