A Brand New Life With Progressive Orgasm Control
I’m 40 years old. I have been married for eight years to a younger man. Everything was wonderful for two months and then his libido decreased. He began to lose interest in me. When I found him watching porn and masturbating I was crushed. I told my older sister and she told me that the chastity belt and orgasm denial would be the solution for us because she and her husband practiced that for years.
I spoke with my husband about it. I asked him how often he masturbates. He told me two or three times a day. What? I was surprised, disappointed and angry at the same time. We have sex up to two times a week. I wanted three times a day.
I started researching on the Internet a chastity belt and Female Led Relationship. It is full of pornography, sadism and masochism and I did not like that.
I wanted to stop his masturbation and to lead him to have a strong desire to satisfy me. I did not want feminization, daily manual teasing, discipline and other S&M stuff. I did not want to become his mother or nanny either. I found a site that was different. It was a regular female led relationship site and it talked about orgasm control.
My plan was to put him in a chastity belt and to unlock him once a week, for the cleaning and shaving. Three cunnilingus per day for my pleasure and that rule constantly excited him.
I made a plan, talked with my sister to recommend a chastity belt suitable for it (we decided to Jail Bird because it allows good hygiene) and the rest was up to him. I delayed this one week. He agreed immediately. He told me that he had some fantasies about the chastity belt.
Fantasy and reality are very much different. After 10 days he wanted to give up. I told him that I am very proud of him, that he is becoming a better lover and husband and that I loved him very much. It helped.
At first we had only two goals: 1. Complete restriction of his self pleasure 2. Getting used to wearing the belt 24/7. He had a very difficult time getting used to the belt. Wearing the belt while sleeping was particularly difficult for him. The Internet is full of stories that it takes a week or two to get used to the chastity belt. This is nonsense. He needed four months.
This period was the worst. I have several times wanted to quit but he was stronger. There was only one crisis at the beginning. At the beginning of those four months orgasm denial was 3 or 4 days. At the end of four months, we barely pushed for a week.
My husband is much younger than me and I love him. I had nothing against his orgasm until I was convinced that it damages his behavior, his mode. After his full orgasm, he needed a week to get back into a good mode. After a ruined orgasm he needed 3 or 4 days to get back to being compliant.
After these four months, our only goal was to achieve 8 weeks of denial. After 8 months we achieved that goal. He and I enjoy a new lifestyle. His denial period is now 4 months. We now apply an old tantric technique that really changed everything for the better.