According to OKCupid Women Should Go After The Man They Want
A recent OkCupid study found that although men are more likely to send the first message on the dating website than women, women who do send messages to men first are more likely to get a positive response.
OkCupid Chief Product Officer Jimena Almendares said the company was surprised by the research project’s results.
“There was clearly a unique opportunity specifically for women on OkCupid when it came to messaging first,” she said.
When online dating, a woman can increase her chance of going on a date with a man who is attractive to her by sending the first message, according to the dating site’s findings.
Almendares said OkCupid analyzed the attractiveness of all the men who women had a conversation with after they sent the first message, and the median attractiveness of those men was 6.6 percentile points above the attractiveness of the women sending the message. The site measured attractiveness as having nice looks, engaging photos and an intriguing profile.
“So even if women select the best from their inbox, it’s likely they are settling and going on a date [with] someone less attractive,” Almendares said. “More importantly, because very few women message first, those that do stand out.”
The study found that the odds would be in favor of the brave woman who messages a guy first, because 30% of those messages turn into a conversation. Women are 2.5 times more likely to get a response than men if they initiate contact.
Ladies of Conquer Him already know that we don’t sit idly by waiting to be chosen. We go for what we want and if the man is smart enough, he’ll recognize the value in our being assertive. Go ahead and ASK HIM OUT!