Accountability Is Important In a FLR
When you sign up for the Conquer Him Academy’s Female Led Relationship Training Group For Women, you will be educated on the basic principles of a FLR and you will be challenged to become the best version of yourself.
One of the issues that I encountered with a former student was the issue of being accountable.
During the course of the 4 week program, students have access to log in to the online Conquer Him Academy where there are courses already set up for them. Each week they are given two 10-20 minute video lessons to watch. Each video lesson has a quiz and a 400 word writing assignment to complete. Students also have access to our private Facebook group where they are to post the writing assignments for everyone to read. There is also one daily discussion question posted in the group which complements the lessons from the Conquer Him Academy. Students are asked to participate in each discussion and comment on the writing assignments of the other students.
Yes, this is a LOT of work, but I believe it is necessary in order to get as much information in during the 4 weeks as possible. Each course is designed to cater to the specific needs of the students who register and I try my best to assess all of the questions and provide insight.
At the end of each week, I score the students on their assignments, participation and attendance and post the scores in the group along with personal notes/feedback for each student to read.
One student consistently scored lower than the rest due to lack of participation and being absent from the weekly LIVE TALKS and I cautioned her that I am holding her accountable for participating in the course, not only because it annoys me to put in so much effort to organize this one of a kind training program and not have the students actually use the information, but also because her not holding herself accountable to a program that she elected to participated in is an indication that she will not hold her submissive partner accountable to tasks.
When you do not hold your submissive partner accountable by checking up on the tasks that you give him, he will begin to slack off and his respect for your dominance will decrease. This will spill into his life outside of your relationship as well. Teach him that he should always strive to exceed the expectations given to him by checking up to make sure he performed the tasks correctly.
After a couple of weeks of poor performance, this particular student and I met for our One on One conference. Before we tackled the issues she had presented to me for coaching, she shared with me that my criticism of her lack of accountability was correct. She also shared that since she was made aware of her own lack of accountability, she began to hold her husband more accountable.
Guess what happened? HE LOVED IT!
“You actually followed up!” she told me he exclaimed. He was so excited to receive her approval. She began to notice that he worked just a bit harder to meet her expectations without complaining as he usually would. She also reported that she began to hold her children accountable for tasks she gave them instead of just doing it herself and her kids asked her, “What’s going on with you, Mom?”
Accountability is important. Submissive men crave approval. If you do not check up on them and hold them accountable, they feel like the world is out of order. They want your praise. They are satisfied by it.
Hold yourself accountable to doing the things you set up for yourself and ALWAYS hold your submissive partner accountable for completing his tasks and everyone involved will be much happier!
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I Mistress of a blog I respect (Woman in Control Blog) commented last year that 95% of the ownership of making a WLM work is hers. What I believe she meant by that is that although he does lots of work on her behalf, it’s her responsibility to engage him – to make him accountable, to remind him of who he his, who she is, and what she expects.
Although what he does takes more time, she needs to be equally actively engaged. Her engagement need not take as much time but it is necessary.
Just learned of your blog. Have enjoyed reading what posts I have so far. Keep up the good work.
I couldn’t agree more. Like a private in the army, he follows orders and does the work, and like an officer, she gives the orders and assures they are carried out properly or else there are consequences. In a FLR, as in the army, it’s called discipline and training…and it works! .