3 Responses to “Are You Married to a Masochist?

  • Bravo! You did an excellent job of laying it out there tactfully, without being salacious.

    I do want to point out that there are degrees to this. So folks should not get the stereotypical dungeon vision when they hear “masochist”. Many cases are quite mild.

    Also there is treatment, ways to mold the brain so that this is less an issue. There are ways to cope. Have faith in the power of love and time.

  • Very insightful and well written, with sensitivities to both parties……this imo is the reason that while accommodations and adjustments may be made and developed, the ideal partner for a maso sub male in an FLR, is a sadistically inclined woman, and vice versa…..again best to deal with this before significant relationship development like marriage, etc. occurs.

  • I’ve been a masochistic male pretty much since puberty & what you’ve written here is accepting & generous.

    A different way of receiving love, that’s putting it beautifully. I also loved the insight that you concluded with, about deciding which type of dominant woman you will be. There are many kinds.

    It’s origins are a mystery, I had a very kind & gentle childhood. Maybe not enough discipline? Maybe that’s it, maybe some of us are searching for the firm hand we lacked as kids?

    As an adolescent the girls in my school were often pretty mean. So maybe it’s that? I don’t know.

    Whatever sparked it though, I’m thankful. I wouldn’t want the wounds to heal. I am who I am and if there’s a cure for this I don’t want it.

    Thank you for your understanding.

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