Are You Unsure About Being In Control of Your Relationship?
One of the biggest obstacles that women face when presented with the option for a Female Led Relationship is their inability to overcome the taboo around the women being in control and asserting what she wants.
This inability to grasp the concept of expressing her needs and desires for fear of hurting the man’s feelings or asking for too much is the number one issue presented during our FLR Leadership Training for Women.
Women join my program to share stories of how they were raised to believe that it is a woman’s duty to care for their men and they do receive a certain joy from being the caretaker. It is often off putting when a man requests a Female Led Relationship because the woman has come to express her love by attending to his needs. Even entertaining the idea of a Female Led Relationship, at his request, is just another way of showing how much she wants to make him happy.
But the truth is, it scares her. It feels like one more responsibility she has to take on, a role she has to play to please him. It overwhelms her. She wants to show him love the way she knows how to and this feels like more work for her.
What happens to the woman who is uncertain about taking control because she views it as a chore instead of a tool for her growth?
A) She will make it her personal mission to be the woman he has requested, overdoing her role play, pressuring herself to be the best dominant she can be and eventually burn out because it is not a sincere interaction.
B) She will resent him immediately because she feels as though the love she has to offer is not good enough for him.
What can she do if she is uncertain about taking control in a Female Led Relationship?
She can join the FLR Leadership Training for Women so that she can get the support she needs to truly take advantage of this remarkable opportunity that has been presented to her.
She can try to understand that all he is really asking for is the option to please her. There are no other requirements in a Female Led Relationship, really. He wants to make her happiness the priority. There is no role for her to play. All she has to do is decide what she wants, express it to him and never accept anything less.