Dear Queenie,

First of all I got say that your website is amazing, and so are you. I found it some months ago while searching FLR related stuff and I gotta say that it is great. The stories, the articles, how it looks, it’s all good.

I’d like to know your opinion on something that concerns me. I believe that it’s a fact that a lot of women dont know what they’re capable of or they underestimate their abilities. Probably due to the way they got raised, due to society etc. Maybe also just because they like to be a sexual bottom they mistaken it as a submissive sign in general. While you see a glimpse of either dominance or leadership, they doubt it because they’re unsure. Maybe afraid that they will fail because that’s how they grew up. And I’m here wanting to scream “please let me be the ladder that you’ll step to rise” metaphorically and literally.

Wouldn’t it be better if girls were taught on an early age from their parents about how great they can be (of course I’m not saying a sexist way)? Or how they can use the “weakness” that we men have for the female gender, not only to their advantage but also to attract the right guys.

I would appreciate your opinion. Thanks for being who you are.

Zed

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Dear Zed,

I absolutely agree that young women should be taught that they hold a certain power that will motivate men. So many women are taught that they should be a man’s helpmate. They are fed images of being a man’s prized possession, being CHOSEN by a man or taught skills that are only useful domestically.

The biggest issue I have with how society dismisses women’s potential is the constant bombardment of gender roles. While gender roles are useful for people who can’t decide for themselves which roles they should play in society, these same gender roles and expectations stifle the ingenuity of intelligent people. Before they can figure out what truly makes them happy they are instructed to care about certain goals and given a roadmap for what constitutes success. This roadmap often serves to benefit corporations. The constant battle between what they believe they should achieve and what others expect from them causes depression and creates strife in all of their relationships.

In no way am I inferring that women who elect to be domestic Goddesses should be ashamed of their chosen roles. If a woman chooses to be a domestic Goddess then that role is perfect for her because of her choice. In no way am I inferring that women who choose to be corporate employees are going down the wrong path. As long as a woman has the freedom of choice then she is capable of becoming a Goddess in her own way.

Should young women be taught dominance at an early age? Young women should be taught dominance over themselves at an early age. They should be taught that their duty is to hold off on the pursuit of marriage, romance and creating a family until they are certain of who they are and what kind of lifestyle they want to live. They should be taught to create goals for themselves outside of being a wife and mother and to realize at least one of those goals before they become of age. This type of personal fulfillment will help them to become better wives and mothers because they will have tasted the freedom of being selfish and will not feel as though they are missing out on anything if and when they do decide that their dream lives include leading a family.

If you decide to teach a young woman to be dominant, teach her to dominate herself. Teach her that she has full control over her choices and there are no limitations for her. Teach her that the prescribed path is a form of control and she does not need that. She can be who she wants, when she wants and how she wants, if she is willing to do the work. Whether she is raising a family or leading an army, her choices matter and her choices can impact the world, if she chooses to do so.

All my best wishes!

Queenie

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