Don’t Try To Tame Him
If you’re a single woman and you’re looking for a Female Led Relationship you may be tempted to try to mold a man into what you want. It’s possible, but it takes too much work if you’re already a busy woman. Don’t choose a man who acts like he is a challenge; he wants you to work to earn his devotion. Instead choose from among the men who openly want to serve and empower you.
You can recognize them by how they greet you, the so-called “nice guys”. They are afraid to look you in the eye. They call you Queen. They seem to be in awe of you from the moment they meet you. These are the men you should select from.
As you get to know him you challenge him to see if he is self-sufficient and independent. You don’t want a man who needs you; those types will quit on you if you aren’t dominant enough, whatever that means to them.
When you challenge him, all you have to do is give him a rule to follow. My favorite rule is- Don’t call me, wait until I call you. If he can follow that rule, then he has earned more time with you.
If a man is used to calling the shots and he fails to defer to your wishes, don’t try to tame him. Let him go. Your nonchalance will probably call him back to you. If not, that simply means he would prefer a submissive woman because he has not yet learned about the power of a real woman.
Start with the challenge. Set a rule. See if he can follow it. If he can, give him more standards to follow. If he meets them happily he may be a keeper. If he ever has to say NO or he can’t do it, then tell him he is out of the game and give him a time out. One week will work. Do not speak to him at all.
Give him another chance to meet your standards. If he does then he has learned his lesson. If he does not, then remove him permanently from your consideration. At no point should you ever feel sorry for him or think that your request is too much to ask. The RIGHT man will love how much you challenge him to be your hero and he will truly want to meet every challenge.
You shouldn’t exert much effort on your part. Express what you want and allow him to show you if he wants you in his life or not. If he doesn’t want you he will not deliver. Dismiss him easily so that you both don’t waste your time.
The key is to be willing to be alone and never compromise what you really want.