Feeling Overwhelmed by Your FLR
During Conquer Him Academy’s Female Led Relationship training course, women report being overwhelmed by the concept of a FLR. They say they feel pressured to conform to the ideals that their submissive partners present and it causes them to slack off in disappointment.
One student reported that her husband consistently requested that she dress in leather and participate in S&M. She did not mind doing it, but she did not actually LIKE doing it. She felt that coming up with tasks and protocols was too much for her, but she loved her husband dearly and wanted to be able to give him the lifestyle he had been craving for many years.
The secret to not feeling overwhelmed by a Female Led Relationship is quite simple. Design your FLR the way you want it to be.
When you are constructing the type of FLR you want, there are many ways to do it. During the course you will learn the 4 types of Authority styles to choose from and the 7 different types of dominant women. When you learn which style suits you best, you can go to your submissive partner and discuss them with him. As a submissive partner, he should immediately understand your expectations better and follow suit.
After your expectations are realigned, the rest of the FLR is not about catering to his fantasies at all. Your FLR is about creating a lifestyle that benefits you.
Think about your dream life, the way you want your household to run. Think about what you want to experience as soon as you get home from work. Think about how you would like to be treated when you are out socially. All you have to do is express your expectations to your partner and as a submissive partner, his job is to make sure those experiences come true!
Do you want to be greeted by your partner at the front door wearing nothing but a towel, holding a glass of wine? Would you like him to remove your shoes and give you a foot rub as he asks about your day? All of this is attainable. All of this is within your reach.
A FLR is never about catering to your submissive partner’s fantasies. His kinks and desires are a reward for good performance and support. If he wants leather and whips and chains, he had better be excellent at giving you the lifestyle you asked him for or he will not get what he wants.
If you find yourself feeling inadequate during your FLR, something is terribly wrong.
Either you have a submissive partner who is unethically topping from the bottom, which means requiring you to meet his demands or he will not comply or you are considering his needs before your own. Never consider the submissive partner’s needs before your own. He wants you to be selfish and be a Goddess. He wants to put you first and he needs you to put YOURSELF first too.
Learn how to put yourself first in our 4 week Female Led Relationship training program.