He Says He Wants To Be My Submissive
If a man tells you that he wants to be your submissive, he is telling you that he wants you to have more control in the relationship.
His idea of having control means giving him rules to follow and making sure he follows them. He is saying he wants to know there will be repercussions if he does not follow your rules.
What kind of rules could he be talking about?
I am sure he has a long list of fantasy rules that he has been salivating over in his mind but none of them matter. If you agree to allow him to be your submissive, you decide on the type of treatment that you want from him and let him know. If he tries to tell you what kind of rules to set for him, ignore them. You decide the rules.
You decide how many times he must call you and what times.
You decide how he must dress when going out with you in public.
You decide if and when he goes out with his friends.
You decide where to go for dinner and what you do on your dates.
You decide when you will get married and where.
You take the lead, deciding on the progress of the relationship and how much time you spend together.
All you have to do is express your wishes to him and he should follow them. Tell him to correct any of his behaviors that you do not like. You are grooming him to be perfect for you.
You can allow him to make decisions for the things you don’t want to choose, things that aren’t that important to you.
If a decision needs to be made and it is important to you, he needs to let you have your way. If he argues with you about something that you want or tries to convince you otherwise you should give him a break from the relationship immediately. Tell him that you will talk to him again in 7 days and when you do, he needs to explain why he can’t offer you what you asked for. When he gives in, you can continue to be loving towards him and continue to set rules for him, which delights him. If he does not give in, give him another break from the relationship. This will teach him that it is going to be your way, or no way.
If you find yourself giving him too many breaks then he was lying when he said he wanted to be your submissive and he really wants you to do demeaning things to him to force him to behave.
The type of men who want to be forced to do things are too much work and not enough reward for a Powerful Woman. He needs too much attention and wants your relationship to revolve around him being man handled. This is not a relationship you should entertain because there are other goals to be achieved in life besides making a man behave. Tell him to go play with someone else if he can’t willingly give you the things you ask for without you having to force him to do them.
This may seem crazy if you are not familiar with this concept but this is exactly what he wants. He not only wants this badly, if he was bold enough to express to you that he wants to be your submissive, he is craving a relationship like this. Most men are too hung up on their ego to express that they want to be submissive so you have a very rare and special man in your life.
This is actually a very fun and beneficial relationship for you. This man has to trust you to ask to be your submissive. He wants a deeper relationship with you. He wants you to stop catering to him and allow him to cater to you without expecting anything in return.
Having a man who wants to cater to your needs and support you is the best way to go, as long as he does not need to be forced to do things or punished like a dog. He should willingly give you the desires of your heart and he will, if he is truly submissive.
If reading this post delighted you and you like the concept of having a man cater to your needs, you should explore this blog further. Or better yet, have him enroll you in our Female Led Relationship Leadership Training Program for Women so that you will be personally supported and coached on how to gain the confidence to lead, set standards and become even more POWERFUL in your life.
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Te-Erika,
I think you are right on with ‘him’ willingly following and not being forced to follow and accepting the ‘rules’ no matter if they are very intense or not controlling enough.
I believe one of the things for many men to learn and take-to-heart is the ability to become really good listeners… focused listeners, dedicated listeners. I use to rudely interrupt her often and sometimes (many times), complete my wife’s sentences… thinking it was a sign of how connected we were!! I had not realized how annoying it was for me to do that and not really listen to her to frequently. It is interesting what you do learn about a woman when you do not interrupt her, truly listen to her, and not argue with her! It also can be rewarding to unwind together by sharing a glass of wine and allow her to vent to you about her day – without really needing your quick response or profound solutions. (it took me too long to learn that?!)
I now feel a level of comfort and joy now in becoming a better husband catering to my wife. I listen and keep a record of her peeves and dislikes, which seem to more honestly come to light now. Amazing the things she never opened up about and really wished she probably could have! Also amazing the new things I now am interesting in, taken as hobbies, taken to heart, that she has directed me to and help to foster in my life.
It is a balanced (slightly brave) new world when both a submissive intelligent man obediently, trustfully and joyfully knows/begins to relish his place, and a strong, intelligent woman grows and embraces her leadership, her power and her control.
KK 🙂
Men who’d act like this, dont know what they truly want or what it truly means to be in a relationship like this. While Women have to learn about this type of relationships, men have to unlearn. If you catch my drift.
Spot on lol; this some kinda crazy paralel universe shit
I wan to learn to be a sub. male Thank you Women for this helpful site. Women Rule!!!!