He Wants Her To Consider a Female Led Relationship
Whenever a nervous husband or boyfriend unexpectedly asks the Lady in his life if she would consider allowing him to submit to her and she doesn’t blurt out a shocked, loud, unequivocal ‘No!’ there is good reason to be optimistic that the seeds of a beautiful Female Led Relationship have been planted. The Lady may not have given him permission to proceed just yet, but it could indicate that she is weighing her options, determining whether this man she has taken on now wants to be attentive and obedient and work diligently to ensure her needs are met. The truth is, he probably always had.
Depending on circumstance, confronting the issue can, at first, be kind of scary. It’s possible that it’s taken literally years of soul-searching and introspection to get to the point where he can muster the courage to ask his Lady to be his leader. A prospective Domina who hasn’t walked away yet, who may be considering her position, has likely landed herself a genuine worshipful submissive who adores her and truly wishes to serve her.
The best way to find out if everybody is on the same page is to communicate. She would be entirely within her rights to question in detail why he feels the need for these developments (or, perhaps, enhancements may be a better word insofar as they might have always existed in some form … for example, he may always have been courteous and attentive to her in the past, opening doors, never interrupting her, etc., it’s a long list) and he now wishes to demonstrate his devotion to her on a higher level. He needs to inform her of his motivations, leave nothing out. Honesty is so important. If he seriously wants her to lead their relationship into an exciting new dimension, she needs to trust his words and deeds. Half-truths and omission don’t cut it in a FLR. That’s one of the reasons that a pure FLR is special.
I can’t emphasize enough the importance of talking through all aspects of the relationship. After 7 years of a committed lifestyle FLR, my Lady and I continue to discuss everything with the common intent of making it stronger and, by extension, more exciting for the two of us. If I have disappointed her in some way, either at home or in public, she will sit with me and explain why. She is my teacher. She enables me to grow as a submissive man and thus become more adept at supporting her and caring for her and, importantly, encouraging her leadership and dominance.
It’s been my experience, both with my Lady in our high-level FLR and in a previous relationship where I was definitely submissive but the FLR was much more moderate (although it proved to be excellent training), that a highly-intelligent strong Domina with an innate sense of her self-worth and a deep understanding of the sublime power of the Feminine Divine – her ability to guide, direct, command, correct, forgive, heal, et al – will recognize that a man will only attain his potential as a man when she has permitted him to serve her and in so doing strive far beyond the limits of his imagined ability.
Many philosophers believe that a male can arrive at his highest state of awareness and reach his highest plane of being only when he has committed himself faithfully to serve a woman. I agree with them. Quite simply, men are here to serve women.
A man who is submissive and wants to serve his Domina probably has great faith in the extent of her majestic feminine powers. He believes she has the ability to heal the planet.He wants to help her any way he can. Whilst other factors certainly come into play – many devoted FLR couples can be infinitely creative incorporating various kinks into their lifestyle – I do believe that most – if not all – submissive men have in their hearts a firm conviction that being in the aura of the exquisite power of the Feminine Divine can further their journeys as men, make them the men their Dominant Women can be pleased with.
If you are a woman whose boyfriend or husband has recently implored you to now accept him as your submissive, and assuming you are still here reading this, it’s possible that he has tapped into a part of your being that has been lying equally dormant for too long: the supreme Domina. Give her wings, she will transcend all previous possibilities that were open to you. Permit him to serve you well. The two of you will redefine the concept of love and respect in a very precious and beautiful Female Led Relationship.
By Frankie Teardrop