He Wants Me to Dominate Him
Has a man you’ve been dating asked you to dominate him?
Are you confused as to what that really means?
Well, it could mean one of two things.
- He wants to be your submissive. In this case you’re being asked to place your needs before his and to allow him to cater to you and your wishes without question. That is the basis of a Female Led Relationship and it is a great thing for a man to ask for. It means he admires your leadership abilities and he knows that with your guidance he will become a better man and a better partner for you.
- He wants you to dominate him forcefully. This is better known as female domination or femdom. He wants you to force him to do things, hold him to high standards, hold him accountable and punish him severely if he does not perform your requests properly.
Before you decide if you want to consider his requests, please consider the following wisdom.
Has he asked you to dominate him and given you instructions on how he wants you to dominate him?
If this is the case, he’s manipulating you into becoming his fantasy dominatrix. He wants to use to achieve sexual arousal. A dominant person is a person who takes control and how can you be in control if you are following his orders?
Tell him that you are not interested in being his puppet and if you are going to dominate him you will do it the way you want to. Then you choose how much control over his life and actions that you want. Your objective would be to tell him how to be a better partner for you.
Has he told you that he won’t be with you unless you dominate him?
He is an asshole and he’s looking for free BDSM play. Dump him immediately.
Has he told you that he just wants to make you happy?
Yes, this is what you are looking for. This is very rare but men like that are out there. He gains pleasure from seeing you smile and will do anything to help you achieve your goals in life. Now all you have to do is be clear and express to him what you want from him and how you want it.
He should willingly do things your way because he wants to please you. If he argues with you or you have to keep reminding him to do the things you asked him to do, he’s not actually trying to please you, he has something else in mind, probably sexual domination.
Has he asked you to dominate him sexually?
This is when a woman is forceful and aggressive during intimate activities. Her only mission is her pleasure and she does not care at all about his pleasure. She uses his body as her toy in any way that she likes and he loves it.
The only problem with sexual domination is, if you are not turned on by doing it, you won’t enjoy it. When you repeatedly do any activity with a man that you do not enjoy, you project an aura of neediness and desperation and he will not respect you.
If you do not want to tie him up or boss him around sexually you don’t have to and you should not do it. If you are worried that you could lose him if you don’t do things his way then you need to have him enroll you in our FLR Leadership Training for Women so that I can help you to get over that fear and take back control of your life and self confidence.
Has he proven that he won’t take care of himself or you unless you yell at him, hit him or force him to do it?
He is not worth your time. Don’t you have other goals in life? A man who needs constant attention like that is a waste of space in your life. How can you help change the world or provide a great environment for your family if you are constantly running behind him to get him to do the things you asked of him.
Is he a grown man or a little boy? Well, maybe you like little boys. Maybe you like nagging and punishing and yelling. If this is the case, then go right ahead.
Powerful Women in the Conquer Him Community do not have time for any of that. We’re too busy making progress and enjoying our lives with partners who love us enough to respect our wishes without fighting us. They don’t need us to bring down the hammer so they can behave or take proper care of themselves.
Has he given you a list of fantasies to act out where you are forcing him to do things and punishing him severely physically or emotionally?
This man is a masochist and enjoys pain and punishment. If you enjoy making others feel pain then you are a perfect match, but if you do not like the idea of being mean to someone else on purpose this is not the right man for you.
He is disrespecting you. You are not his servant. He is using you to get his rocks off and any woman will do. In fact, if the woman before you had said YES to his demands, you would have never met him. He would still be with her. Say goodbye to him.
Listen, the truth is, you won’t run out of chances for love. Unless you are planning to die tomorrow you still have a chance to find someone who is right for you.
Do you see how he was open enough to express what type of relationship he wants with you? You have to respect yourself enough to do the same.
If he is a sweet and intelligent man who caters to you, but has a few fantasies that seem weird, don’t discount him because of that, but you don’t have to give him anything until you are ready and willing.
Check to see if he is the type of man who wants to please you because he enjoys seeing you smile. If he is consistent with this type of behavior, wanting nothing in return, you can surprise him with a night of acting out one of his fantasies. It’s just play, it won’t hurt. You may find that you like it.
BUT- don’t allow him to demand that you do it, or make it a condition to continue the relationship. Believe me, if he makes his love conditional on your dominating him then he is really trying to train you like a dog.
You’re not a dog begging for scraps of love. You’re a Goddess and you should be treated like one.
If you don’t believe you are a Goddess, enroll in our FLR Leadership Training For Women and I’ll help wake up the Goddess within.