How Much Money Do You Need For a FLR?
Dear Queenie,
I have been reading your emails and I desire to be really led by a dominant Mistress in a FLR but I do not have the financial resources to put forth into a reasonable good will offering. Thus I feel that I am not living up to one of the requirements of the submissive male role. I have been very reluctant to communicate until this point. My desire to serve is strong but I am not sure how to proceed.
I deeply desire to be in a female lead relationship and I know that I do not possess the financial resources to contribute to my side of the relationship. I believe that being brought up in the family with a strong mother and sister that I have been prepared to be open to an FLR. I do have a skill set that is represented by several masters degrees but I do not have equity to any appreciable amount.
I would be loyal, generous, open to being trained and profoundly ready to be led and I hope that would be attractive to a dominant and self assured woman. This perception that I have a lack of resources inhibits me from connecting with your group.
If I am off the mark please let me know.
♦♦♦
Dear Jay,
What are you talking about? What is a good will offering? Who are you giving this to? Who asked for one?
Ohhhhhh. You must have reached out to women online who label themselves as dominants or Mistresses and they all require you to give them money to prove that you will be obedient.
Well, I have bad news and good news.
A woman who describes herself as a Mistress will most likely require you to give her money because she is offering you a service by dominating you. This is her job. If you do not have money, she cannot perform the service. So you are out of luck if you do not have expendable funds.
The good news is– if you can change your desire to a Loving FLR you will likely meet a woman who will love you and won’t need a donation to prove that you are devoted to her.
Women who want Loving FLRs take care of themselves very well and don’t necessarily need a man. As long as you are not going to ask her for money to cover your expenses you should be fine. The way you described yourself as loyal, generous, open to being trained is exactly what women who want a Loving FLR are looking for.
BUT- women who want a Loving FLR do not want to be called Mistress or Ma’am. They are not going to play a role for you. They won’t service you by being controlling and being mean whenever you ask them. They will, however, love you, push you to achieve more than you have in the past and make sure you stay out of trouble. You won’t get that stern, domination fantasy with a woman in a Loving FLR because the only women who act like that without being paid for it are sadists.
So you can either get a second job so that you can pay to be dominated, find an abusive woman who will take out her anger on you or decide you can live without it and enjoy a woman for her company and not her ability to condemn and abuse you. Either choice is fine.
Queenie
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I think what the original poster was asking was more about not being able to provide adequately for the woman in a primary breadwinner function.
Many people like someone to take care of their bills and to service the cost of their whims – I think the OP feels he wants to serve and support a dominant woman but doesn’t feel wealthy/financially successful enough to be her golden ticket either which is often how FLR is also framed from both lifestylers and professionals alike.
Interesting post and answers. With Masters degrees and ability to work I don’t see a problem. She can push him to achieve more like the article said. She probably knows how to balance any budget, etc. She can control finances and make a good life with what they both have, if they like each other and are compatible.