I Am A Lady, Not a Mistress
As Lady Alpha Myan, I prefer the title of Lady to resemble the English Court system of respect afforded to the women. The Ladies in Waiting were expected to be suited to marry and to remain chaste until they did, or they were to wed as a way to gained political power or allies for their country. Ladies of the Court also waited on the Queen and were often chosen to marry affluent and wealthy Lords and Gentlemen. In this system, it is a respectful title, and not a negative.
In American language, one could use Lady and this could evoke “Lady of the Night” and other not-so-kind titles, however, education is key, thus I prefer to correct someone who desire to refer to me as Mistress due to the fact that there are a number of Pro-Dommes that prefer to be called this by title, and this is their profession. I am not in a business, and thus do not desire to be called or referred to by a title that might get confused with someone desiring to meet for a long term relationship in FLR, vs. someone desiring to meet a Mistress for play, or get confused with being asked to pay.
In FLRs, use of language is very powerful and many terms are interchangeable, so be very careful, you might be looking for an FLR, however, someone else might be shopping for a Mistress to “hookup” with for play, so it is wise to become patient in your quest, and be an ardent teacher and believer, otherwise you will find yourself staying a Mistress-by-default.
In an FLR, one would desire to remain focus on being honest about not coming in as a second to his “kinks” or being present to further his desire to have it all–the wife and the Mistress. So, in this case, I would be very clear on my worth, and that is what I consider a true FLR, and that is I am not here for you, you are here for my needs, and if you cannot abide this contract, then this is not an FLR, and does not serve my best interest.
As a Lady, I prefer to meet a “Gentle” Man to serve my needs. A gentle man who is very in tune with respecting a Lady and her needs; not someone who wants to become my Lord and Master.
Lady Alpha Myan