I Am The Ultimate Decision Maker
Rachel and John have been in a female led relationship for about half of the 11 years they have known one another. Their mutual interest in spanking brought them together originally. Practicing a female led relationship with elements of femdom are important for the pair because it allows Rachel to enjoy having the control at home she doesn’t have at work as a RN. In Rachel’s Journey to FLR, she will share some of the most important lessons she and John have learned.
Imagine being in bed with your lover who does everything you mandate as soon as you state your desire. He is skilled at bringing your repeated orgasms during a long lovemaking session without ever climaxing himself or asking for release. When you are physically and mentally exhausted, he rubs your back and neck or drops to his knees and messages your feet – or massages your anus upon your command. If you regain your energy, you call him back and he is looking into your eyes as you have him make love to you or his lips and tongue are busy for as long as you want on your nipples and breasts. Or perhaps you want to straddle him and push your wet pussy onto his face, using his nose and mouth like you might with a pillow when you pump yourself to repeated climaxes.
Even important, your partner is your best friend and continues that level of service outside your bedroom. He focuses on you and your pleasure, follows your commands without delay or attitude. He works to anticipate your needs and exceed them. Best yet, he has learned to be obedient, to take criticism as a way to better serve you and please you – and, thus, add to his life.
Yes, this approach is part of what some people call FLR – Female Led Relationships. For others, their sex life is not included in the FLR; some FLRs could have vanilla sex lives. What matters is that the female is the leader and the male relies on her leadership and decision making within the boundaries that work for them. Each FLR is individually established.
Communications and setting parameters that works for the couple is central for the success of the individual relationship. One might argue that FLRs takes a far higher level of communications, although some people would view that once the ground rules are established, all other decisions are easier since one person is ultimately in charge.
As a couple who have read considerably on FLRs and met with other couples in a FLR and/or Femdom relationship, we realize relationships are very different, even if they are under the umbrella of FLR. Beyond the kink that will be explained below, a major portion of this approach is a focus on the lady. The man is not usually considered to be inferior by either partner. This is not the case in all FLRs; in some, the basis is that the man is inferior. That is not the case with us.
Yet, in a FLR, the gentleman is giving of himself in ways that do not occur in other long-term relationships. In many ways, our bond is the same as a CSW (Christian Submissive Wife), HOH (Head of Household), or LDD (Loving Domestic Discipline) couples but the power of the sexes is switched in our FLR. In the case of a FLR, the woman ultimately makes the decisions, although she will often listen to her mate’s thoughts, many times take into consideration of his wants and true needs. She will do things that are special for him including some activities she may not enjoy at times (attending a baseball game or giving head). These activities are not regularly given but can be a special reward or gift to him. I decide. While we communicate about what is working and what might not work as well, I am the ultimate decision maker.