Dear Queenie: I’m 15 and I Want a FLR
Hello I am a 15-year-old high school student male who has always been interested in a female led relationship ever since I was about 14. I find that your talk of an actual movement is very appealing because I don’t look at my feelings towards FLR as all sexual. In fact most of these beliefs arise from the one belief that females can change the world and that me as a male can help push a productive female up by catering to her every whim so she can be full of comfort and happiness. Although I am very young and confused, I have never told anyone this before. It’s almost shameful to me. I dated girls and have a ton of friends. Should I be ashamed? You seem so very wise, I would love your advice so much thank you.
As a side question, how should a male act around other women or his goddesses friends?
You are not alone in your quest for a FLR at an early age. The only difference between you and other submissive men is that you are taking action to learn more and trying to accept your feelings.
There is nothing to be ashamed of.
In fact, most men I have encountered through Conquer Him knew from their early teens that they were submissive. You are going to be a great partner one day. In fact, you can begin embracing who you are right now and being proud of it.
There are several reasons why a submissive man would be ashamed of his personality. These stem from certain fears.
- Women will take advantage of you.
- Women won’t respect your caring nature.
- Women will reject you because you aren’t manly.
Women will take advantage of you.
Yes, they will. That is what a good submissive man is for. A good woman will take advantage of the man who has devoted his life to empowering her and that is a good thing. To eradicate your fear of being taken advantage of in the wrong way, be sure to NEVER GIVE MORE THAN YOU WANT TO. If you are giving because you want to, then your service and support will never be in vain. If the woman doesn’t appreciate your support or takes it for granted, it is merely a sign that she is not the one for you.
Women won’t respect your caring nature.
A woman who is not accustomed to being cared for won’t appreciate your caring nature but there are many others who will. If you meet a woman who calls you a wimp for catering to her, that mean she is used to being abused. That is a good sign that she does not deserve your support. Never try to convince a woman to respect your love. If the way you express love doesn’t delight her then she is not the one for you. Watch for the signs and be willing to walk away.
Your job is to offer your support. Her job is to accept and appreciate it. If these two things are not happening, it’s a cue to remove yourself from the situation.
Women will reject you because you aren’t manly.
What does it mean to be manly? Can you open a tightly sealed jar? Can you change a tire? Can you give an amazing massage? Can you care for yourself and your future partner financially without her assistance? Can you deliver what you promise without hesitation?
I believe those things are manly. Learn how to do those things and you can call yourself a man.
Any other definition of ‘manliness’ is purely created from the objective of the person defining it. All of their definitions will be different. Some women believe manliness is about being in control and leading the relationship. If you encounter a woman who holds this belief, don’t take it as something is wrong with you. Again, it is a signal that she is not a good match for you. That’s all.
How should a male act around other women or his Goddess’s friends?
A man should always be himself in all situations. Be respectful, supportive and fun to be with. When you are around your Goddess’s friends, speak highly of your Goddess and defer to her. Be a true gentleman. Her friends will be in awe of you and your relationship. If they laugh at you for treating a woman with respect and putting her needs first, they are probably looking for someone to hurt them and deny them because they consider that to be love. Everyone has a preference for what their idea of love is. Just because it doesn’t match yours, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
Express love the way you fantasize about doing it. The right woman will be delighted by it. The wrong women will walk away. It’s just a weeding out process so that you can identify the Goddess who will love you forever.