I Introduced FLR With a Letter To My Wife
I mentioned to my wife the other day about Female Led Relationships. I pointed out to her, that for the most part our relationship has been female led. Most of the major decisions in our lives together were her decisions.
For example, when we met at college, we started dating 4 months before I graduated. We met in Kansas. I was from New York, she was from Minnesota. I was a senior and she was a freshman. In March, 2 months before I graduated, she told me she was coming to New York with me after I graduated. I thought she was not thinking clearly and said so. She decided to give me the silent treatment for a while. I could not bear to have her silent towards me and after 2 weeks I agreed that she should come to New York with me.
We were engaged on her birthday, July 22, 2001, and married on August 10, 2002. Fast forward to 2008, that summer, my wife met her birth mom, they hit it off so well, that my wife decided that we should move to Minnesota so she could be closer to her birth mom. So, 4 months later, we moved to Minnesota. Moving on to recently, I mentioned it to my wife that we were a pretty much in a Female Led Relationship. I even gave her some links that she could check it out. She agreed that she pretty much leads in the relationship. She also said that she didn’t have a lot of confidence. She does want to learn more and push forward with being in control and taking charge of the relationship.
Leading up to our anniversary, I wrote her a letter expressing my devotion to her, and what I needed to do to better her life. For example, I need to do more chores around the house. I also said I needed to be more respectful towards her. I also said I needed to take better care of myself. With her leading, it should be her control on everything. She acknowledged a while ago that she could not handle the finances. Since FLR was brought up, I asked her for control of the finances. It turns out that she really liked the letter I wrote.
She went away for the weekend and she left me a note telling me what she expects me to do while she is gone. She really is happy that I came across FLR, and we have seen positive changes in both of us since I first mentioned FLR to her.