Is Forced Feminization a Normal Part of a FLR?
Forced feminization is when a woman demands that her partner wear feminine style clothing and underwear. She may ask him to wear it underneath his regular clothing or ask him to wear it while doing tasks around the house. She may make him wear makeup or put bows in his hair. She may strip him of his ‘masculine’ hobbies and substitute new ones that align more with her own hobbies and interests.
Why would a woman do this?
On the surface, it seems that a certain type of woman would want to force a man to be more feminine because she enjoys being in control of his actions. She is thrilled by making demands of him that make him uncomfortable and push his limits.
When we examine things a little deeper we will see that no man participates in an activity like this unless it delights him. He’s not really being forced to do it because he wants to do it. He may pretend like it displeases him but it is all an act.
At any given time during a healthy, loving Female Led Relationship, a man may tell a woman that a request she makes is going too far. A healthy, loving Female Led Relationship will never develop to the point where a woman’s requests will intentionally hurt the man she loves. If she truly believes it will hurt him, she would never ask him to do it. She is just as much his protector as he is her protector.
Creating additional challenges to add to the ones that life naturally offers is ridiculous, which means that the act of forcing a man to become feminine:
- Is loving play between a couple
- Means she has a sadistic side that needs to be expressed
- Means she is insecure and needs to exert her power over him forcefully
- Means he really wants to cross dress and is using her as a cover so that he won’t have to take responsibility for his desires
Women who focus on pushing a man’s boundaries, especially through forced feminization, are practicing female domination, which is different from FLRs. Female domination is more about focusing on controlling and attending to the man’s need to be dominated and fulfilled.
In a healthy, loving Female Led Relationship, she is leading him to create her dream life, she is not focused on pushing his boundaries. Femdom is about the man’s needs, Female Led Relationships are about the woman’s desires.
Is forced feminization a normal part of a FLR? No.
Is it necessary for the progress of the relationship? No.
A healthy, loving Female Led Relationship does not need forced feminization to be successful. There is nothing wrong with a man who participates in what society believes are ‘masculine’ activities. You are with a man because you like the balance of masculine and feminine energies, not to recreate him into your own image.
Forced feminization is a kink. It’s something extra you can use to spice up your relationship and make it more exciting and fun. But don’t ever believe that a man who participates in wearing female clothing and cross dressing is doing it because he is being forced. He wants it, probably more than she does.
His wife or partner would know if it would greatly displease him and she would never do anything to bring harm to his life, FLRs are not about that.
FLRs are not about seeing how far a woman can push a man to submit to her will. That is a BDSM femdom activity. It’s actually a lot of fun, but it is still a kink and not a requirement.
We don’t need kinks to participate in FLRs.