My Partner Is The Center of Attention
Towards the end of a week of self-obsessed surfing I recently had the good fortune to stumble across the site called Loving FLR and the sister site Conquer Him. Now in my early 60s and retired I have always kept my submissive side and kinky tendencies to myself. Thanks to my furtive explorations down the years I was well aware of the existence of femdom, which was never an option, but had never before come across the concept of FLRs.
Seven years ago my first marriage ended, with the final ten years free of intimacy. Six months later I was in a new relationship with a partner who loved to make love. She took the lead on an adventurous and exciting journey during which I was happy to follow. For the first three years we were in a long distance relationship but three years ago I retired and moved to be with my partner who was, and is, still working. As the one with time on his hands I cooked most of the meals, took care of the laundry and was happy to be supportive in whatever way I could be.
Not long after, the menopause kicked in. At first this was a difficult transition for my partner but she has coped with it exceptionally well. However, the change in our love life was a challenge. While researching the menopause I came across a wonderful book by Joan Price, about sex for the over 50s, written for couples but from a women’s perspective, which then led on to her website. With great nervousness I told my partner about the book. I needn’t have worried because she was delighted to hear something positive about this stage of her life. Following guidance from both book and website we have introduced the idea of “The Sunday Date” as a special time for ourselves. Meanwhile, thanks to the book, I was also able to tentatively suggest some variation to our play. Several months later I was invited to let her know what my needs might be.
It was this invitation that led to my week of self-obsession that began with being all about me me me and my desires. Thankfully, before the end of the week, I had arrived at the sites of Loving FLR and Conquer Him which provided me with the guidance I needed to reorient my focus. I was now able to channel my submissive side to concentrate on the needs of my partner and the ways that I could best support her further than I had done to date. She has just begun a new job alongside the additional stress of supporting her ageing mother, all the while coping with the menopause. By the end of the week that had begun with my selfish ponderings, I now had the confidence from Loving FLR and Conquer Him to reveal my submissive side and to suggest that I intended to do much more to be positive and supportive in order to remove as much stress from her life as possible. Furthermore, the goal was for her to become empowered, to ask and expect me to undertake much more in order to make her life less stressful.
Of course, this was all new to her and it is still early days. I must avoid rushing things, especially as the aim is to reduce stress, not add to it. But we have inaugurated another special day called “Her Friday Treat” where the center of attention is my partner, from her choosing the meal that I will prepare for her arrival home to her relaxing on the sofa while I clear the kitchen. The evening his hers to pursue for her own pleasure. I now accompany her on shopping trips for clothes with a positive disposition, happy to follow from shop to shop and to carry her bags. Now that things are in the open, I go about my day carrying out tasks happy in the knowledge that this loving support is its own reward. It feels like we are stronger than ever, embarking on a new loving journey, navigating this new phase of our lives as we enter the 3rd Age.