I Practice FLR with Married Women
Thank you very much for putting together the course Becoming an Anchor Course for Men. Thank you so much for your guidance and good humor with it! I have gained a huge insight from this and I am confident that my interest in FLR for the last five years is now about to shift up a gear!
I have always loved and respected women and it feels as though it is my duty to serve them as the superior gender.
I am very fortunate because I have married women in my life who love their husbands and families who are happy to allow me to practice on them with dating but no sex. Their husbands approve of the arrangement which is wonderful.
It is a perfect situation and I cannot believe that these situations are becoming available to me. It feels as though these beautiful women know something about the shift in me just by looking at me.
The story starts with the fact that I am currently with the most gorgeous woman in the universe. Her name is Jackie and whilst she has found me very attractive, she told me at the very beginning of our relationship / friendship that I was too old for her and that our situation was unsustainable long term.
The truth is that I am 66 years of age and she is 46. She told me that she wants someone her age to live out her life with. She remembers the exact date she first noticed me four years ago and she says that she has been very fond of me since that date. She was trying to reverse her car with a trailer on behind and was having difficulty. I offered to help and she accepted. She was in an eight year relationship with a man who treated her badly in the end and that relationship finished about a year ago in very difficult circumstances.
The loving between us is extraordinary and while I have discussed FLR with her in a very small way she spoke to me about Equality. This was very early in the relationship. What happened Te-Erika is nothing short of amazing for me. She invited me to stay in her house on the evening before we were to go away motorcycling together. She offered me her bed and that she would sleep upstairs in one of the beds that her sons usually use. They were away with their father on this particular weekend.
I opened up to her and said that I really did not want to be on my own in the same house as her and in her bed, would she please allow me to cuddle her in her bed.
She told me that this is not meant to happen, but she conceded and joined me. Prior to this she had cooked me tea and we chatted and had a couple of glasses of wine. It was a very beautiful experience and we had the nicest weekend together away riding motorcycles in the Snowy mountains of Australia.
One thing that has become apparent during the last five months since that first night together is that we communicate and talk and listen to each other beautifully. I read to her and she loves it when I do that. I actually serve her as I would an FLR wife and when she comes to my house I cook for her, prepare the house, get flowers in for her and often write little cards for her. We have developed a routine where I write her an email every morning that she reads at the beginning of her day. She works hard, has a demanding career and has two teenage sons who live with her. She gets every second weekend off and we are free to spend time with each other at either her place or mine. She does not always respond to my text messages or my emails but my approach to that has been to Honor her Choices and to try harder to become irresistible to her without being demanding.
No matter how neglected I feel when we are apart which is during the week except for fitness training at a gym, together on Monday and Wednesday nights, it is always perfect when we are together and when she calls me. I have experienced some anxiety that this beautiful relationship seems destined to end when she is ready and she seems to be preparing me for that eventuality. However, current body language when we are together doesn’t seem to match the words, but still I want to Honor her Choices.
The friendship and communication in this relationship is the best I have ever experienced in my 66 years and I have been married twice and had numerous relationships with very beautiful women.
Recently I attended a seminar and I have come to realize that my expectations of her were unreasonable, given that she has remained steadfast in her view that I am too old for her.
In these seminars there are some very beautiful and friendly women, the married ones seem to be the most self-assured and attractive.
What I have found is that part of my new found confidence is to be very open about what I am feeling and last week I approached a woman named Sandra and told her that I really liked her and that I would like to befriend her. At that point I didn’t know that she was married, or that she has four boys aged from 5 to 11 years old. She works with her husband in his practice and obviously loves him so my respect for her is about forming a friendship that is non sexual from the beginning. I asked if she was interested in dating me and she said straight out if I am ever in her city to please call her and we can go out for coffee or a meal.
Yesterday I hosted a visit by another beautiful woman called Robin, her husband Luke, and their two 16 year old daughters. They are all beautiful people and I made pizza for them for lunch from my wood fired pizza oven. I make the dough and do the whole bit through to cooking and service.
I gave them a tour of my property and showed them my last twenty years of passionate work with photography. We are going to meet for dinner at Robin’s suggestion. I asked if Sandra could join us and it’s a yes. Robin’s daughters seem enthusiastic about the dinner date as well. I feel very special at this point.
Back to the fact that Jackie’s apparent indifference about a long term relationship seems to be less important now that Sandra and Robin seem to like me for my openness. Robin is going to teach me Mindfulness and Sandra will give me great opportunity to practice the skills that I want to use to become irresistible to Jackie!
Jackie has emphasized that I am the best lover she has ever had, like head and shoulders above. You can imagine how nice that is for a man who should be past his prime!
So what has come out of this whole recent experience is that I feel less anxious about my ability to attract and to serve and in fact I am proud of my life and my achievements.
I can tell you that recent business developments are giving me a huge boost to my self-esteem and it is incredibly humbling to see the results from these developments filtering through as enthusiasm for life.
Meditation has been part of my life since 1999 and I do feel much less ego driven and so humbled by the opportunities that I have been given. In 2005 I was diagnosed with Bowel cancer and I have had more than ten extra years of life since operations and treatment for that disease.
The FLR theme feels strong in my life and it is not because I want to subjugate myself or be without responsibility. I want to assume more responsibility if anything and make her my Queen. When I can do that I become her King! It is more because I want the woman who chooses me to really shine and be involved in life alongside me. In the end it will probably be a lower level FLR that prevails but it is up to the woman really to make the final decision about that.
Please accept my heartfelt thanks for having a very clear teaching through your Becoming an Anchor teaching.
Warmest thanks and love,