10 Responses to “Support For Women Being Dominated By Submissive Men

  • I suppose the perception that I would be asking her to be something other than what she is or that we need to change what we are is why I would never ask for a female led relationship

    • I see your point. However, it is a good thing to introduce a woman to the concept of a FLR. It is an empowering relationship style. But it’s wrong and hurtful to demand that she do it your way.

  • The Goddess and the Gentleman…

    I can dig it! 🙂

  • I am happily involved in a female led relationship but I would argue with the premise of this post. When my girlfriend and I looked into FLR – and we spent months researching and reading before we made this lifetime commitment – we both were drawn to the structure of FLR’s. A large part of that structure was discipline and rules. Our FLR agreement has a fairly extensive list of rules and behaviors expected of me by my girlfriend. When I fail to uphold my end of the agreement, my girlfriend punishes me. This is generally corner time, lectures and spankings. I would say I’m submissive in so far as I crave Her control over the relationship but there is no question, I desire to fulfill Her happiness goals by being obedient and respectful of Her wants.

    We have an agreement. We both worked very hard on all aspects of it. That agreement covers punishment pretty clearly. When she fails to correct me for my behavior, it bothers me and yes, it comes up in our monthly FLR reviews we have. I express that I need correction as we agreed it should be done. I dont’ see this topping from the bottom or trying to control her. I see it as us honoring an agreement we spent a lot of time working on….together.

    I get where this post is going in general, but I wanted to point out that ‘wanting’ to be controlled or disciplined isn’t always a sub trying to control a dominant. It’s not. In our case, it’s adhering to a contract we both signed. And by the way, most of the time, our FLR has been a complete success.

    • You may want to be controlled/punished but once you demand it or you won’t respect her, that is where I find the issue with submissive men.

  • I have an 18 yo daughter launching out into the world. I want her wishes to be respected, her dreams to be supported, he intuition to be valued, her heart to be treasured. I will personally go after any man who tries to abuse or manipulate her for his own “submissive” fantasies.
    I identify as a gentleman, even while flawed and imperfect myself.

  • FLR is a emptying of oneself for the sole benefit of her. As we focus on her thoughts and outlook she gains trust in our devotion to her. She sees right through s man’s lies because his desires are not in line with her superior outlook. Once the acceptance of you letting go surfaces only then does she allow you to move forward in the FLR. Devotion has no conditions you must let go, listen and constantly refocus away from your desires so her desires are forfront.

  • Serving her delights my inner being to the point of surrendering my person to her will.

  • Every marriage and also femdom (FLR) marriage should be a win / win. Win for man and win for woman (not only for woman).
    Use his fetish for female happiness and for male happiness also.
    This is the ideal of Femdom / FLR.

    The wise woman will use male fetish and sexuality to her advantage and also his.

  • Dear Queenie, with all respect, as a man who describes himself as a submissive, I want to share my opinion. I beleive that if a man is seeking to get satisfied his need to be controlled is not a conflict with FLR. To be honest if a man doesn’t feel this need, he’s not going to enter to this relationship. This is how it works with everything. Even when you own a car, you should answer to its needs, regular service, gasoline, tire pressure etc… or you should read the manual instruction for each device you own. If men need to be controlled in FLR, it doesn’t mean they are demanding. It means they need to be treat in a way they could continue to love, honor, worship and serve their Goddess. It is like charging your cellphone battery. It is because you’d be able to turn it on and receive the service you expect. Same with the men.

    Best regards

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