The Difference Between Being Powerful and Being Dominant
I, Queenie, am a very enterprising, creative and intelligent person but I don’t consider myself to be dominant.
During my interactions with dominant people within the BDSM scene, I noticed that they become elated when controlling others and having others follow their wishes. It seems like dominance is one of their kinks.
I personally have never felt this kind of elation when someone did things my way. In fact, I prefer to be around people who do things their way, as long as it is pleasing to me. I prefer to surround myself with people who enjoy supporting my goals and making me happy, not because I told them to or because I am controlling them, but because they enjoy doing these things of their own free will.
There is a difference between being dominant and being powerful.
A dominant person takes control. A powerful person is given control.
A dominant person has to create strategies to ensure that others follow their wishes. They may manipulate or offer incentives or otherwise put in some effort to get the person to follow their instructions. A powerful person is magnetizing and others want to do things for them just because of who they are. A powerful person is a dominant person without making effort to convince or persuade or coerce. I consider myself to be more POWERFUL than DOMINANT because of how others interact with me.
When people learn about my work, if they are intelligent, they want to partner with me or connect with me in some way, offering their services or support. I do not demand that they do it. I do not require anything of them except that they keep their word. If a person does not enjoy being of service to me or I do not enjoy their service, I do not create ways to keep them around, I don’t become upset and I do not feel as though I have failed my dominance in any way. I never try to control them so that I can have my way, I simply do not engage with them anymore.
Why? I have learned the skills I need to create all of my dreams on my own. People are attracted to my work because I dominate myself and I am self sustaining.
You can create a happy Female Led Relationship with a woman who is not dominant. She will not feel the need to control the relationship or your actions but she will express her standards and hold you accountable to meeting them.
A dominant person takes control. A powerful person is given control because people trust that they know what to do with it.
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