Say No To Poor Behavior From All Men
Today is a rough day for me. It’s Father’s Day.
Usually I will bite my lip and smile to myself as I call up my stepfather to wish him a Happy Father’s Day, knowing that this gesture will make my mother smile.
Today I didn’t do that.
I feel guilty about it as each moment passes by. I know he’s there at home, sitting next to his phone, waiting for the phone call that will never come. For once.
This man is the reason why I had no idea how to say NO to poor behavior from men. He treated me so terribly that I thought his negative words and abuse were normal. I entered into the next relationships in life, being the safeguard for men who did not know how to accept genuine love from women. I catered to them. I allowed them to make big mistakes and I made excuses for them, blaming myself for their poor behavior.
Today I have stopped.
And I know my mother will be disappointed but this is my life and I have set certain standards for myself and if he can’t meet them, he gets the same treatment as any other man.
If you are a woman considering a Female Led Relationship and you have been abused in the past it will be tough because it takes some time to truly feel that your needs and concerns are important enough to speak up, especially if you once spoke up and were told that your feelings didn’t matter.
Today is a new day.
I am here to tell you that your opinion, preferences and happiness matter more than anyone else’s. If a man is not treating you with the care and concern he would treat a Goddess then he should be dismissed and ignored for all eternity.
You don’t owe him or anyone else a damn thing.
Your feelings are important.
Your health is important.
Your desires are important.
Your safety is important.
You shouldn’t place anyone else above you. You shouldn’t put up with poor behavior just because you want to be the bigger person or to be viewed as being nice.
Let everyone hate you…and stand up for yourself.
Let all those who are used to you being the punching bag become angry…and stand up for yourself.
Let the tears fall down your cheeks because it’s hard to make the transition from being a good girl to being a Goddess…and stand up for yourself.
You may feel guilty today but it will pass. Make today the first day that you do something about what you don’t want. Your happiness matters most.
Say no. I don’t like that. You are annoying me. Stop it. Shut up. Leave me alone. I’m leaving you. Don’t call me. Don’t touch me. I deserve better.
Say it aloud every time you feel that way, no matter what the person may feel about you.
It’s your right and your duty to say NO to poor behavior from men and walk away. No one is judging you but you.
And watch your life change…forever.