We Are the Average Couple in a Female Led Relationship
I’m Sam and my husband is Adrian and we have been married for nearly 5 years. We are one of the couples who participated in the FLR Couples survey and when we saw the results we had no idea how common certain details of our relationship were. After reading ConquerHim for about a year now, we figure that it is about time we shared our story.
We had never even heard of Female Led Relationships until my husband expressed an interest in BDSM just to have a little more fun. We liked the idea of femdom and it was a lot of fun to play around with but it wasn’t until Adrian stumbled upon ConquerHim that we sat down and talked about it seriously.
He approached me to ask me if I wanted to explore more. It seemed fascinating that this could be an actual lifestyle instead of just play time during our love making. We read every single article on ConquerHim and learned a lot. We realized that we can have whatever type of relationship we want as long as he honors my choices and is happy to do it.
He agreed that this is what he wanted. I will be honest after the shock of having things go my way, every time, I have adjusted very well. FLR has made me really have to sit and decide what I want from my relationship and my life in general because I can’t express my needs to him unless I know what I want for myself.
My FLR boosted my confidence quite a bit as well. I trust myself to make the best decisions and I have completely stopped second guessing myself. My husband notices it as well and it makes him happy to see that I am direct and deliberate. We don’t do any of the BDSM stuff anymore. We live out a regular life except when I want something done a certain way, I always get it.
Sexually he is not submissive and his aggressiveness in bed is one of the reasons I married him so there is no sexual domination in our relationship. We make love whenever we feel like it, he will initiate or I will. The only rule we set in place was that I would always peak before he could.
I am spoiled by him now more than ever before. I feel like he is my magic wand. He can do anything or take care of anything that I could ask for. Sometimes I challenge him with odd requests just to laugh as he scrambles to get things done. That’s the kind of fun we have with it. Otherwise, we don’t do anything ritualistic. We have fun together. We never argue. We don’t have to. He asks me what I think or what I want and I tell him and that is it.
He is older than I am by 15 years but that doesn’t bother us. He earns more income than I do. My income is mine to do whatever I please. I have more free time than he does so I tackle the housework because I enjoy keeping things in order myself. As such, I am in charge of the finances and we both get a small monthly allowance, everything else is put away.
He is such a type A personality; he just has to do a good and thorough job. It makes him so happy to do things for me and see me smile afterwards.
My FLR is beautiful to me. I am so glad my husband introduced it into our lives and I appreciate ConquerHim for showing us a path that was easy to follow as we created this dream relationship for ourselves.