When I Say I Want A Woman to Dominate Me…
What does it mean when a submissive man says that he wants to be dominated by a woman? It could mean so many things…and it does.
I asked the male readers of ConquerHim to describe what they mean when they say they want to be dominated by a woman and the responses were as colorful and varied as a woman’s wardrobe.
Here is a small sample of the responses.
My Lady’s dominance is as understated as it is real. If you were to know us only casually it’s possible you would never realise the extent of her dominance over me. Her directives to me are always soft, controlled and polite, if firm, and my compliance is necessarily swift, unfussed and non-argumentative. My focus is wholly on ensuring her wish is honoured in a manner that is courteous and pleasing to her. We feel that being able to conduct our power exchange without either of us needing to be overt about it is what makes it strong.
~Frankie T. 65, In a long-term relationship with my Lady and her younger lover.
I want to do the chores for Her, treat Her as a Queen, massage Her every night, buy Her presents, and submit my opinions (I always have one!) to Hers. I will be fulfilled if She keeps control of my orgasms and ensures that they are less than Hers(for instance 1/3). As “easy” as that!
~Nico, 34, Married
To me, domination means submitting to the will of my woman. She controls what she wants to and leaves the rest to me. In my current relationship, my woman controls everything: what I wear, my haircut, she will order for me at a restaurant and I will feed her upon request. At home, it means that I am subservient to all of her needs. I wake her, wash her, help her relieve herself, help her dress, cook for her, clean and tend to all of her sexual needs no matter what they may be.
Domination here includes strict discipline such that she should only say something to me once and I respond, otherwise I have displeased her and must be punished. When she wants to F&$% my a$$, I let her. If she wants me to eat kneeling at her feet from a slave bowl, I do it. There is nothing I can say that matters above her word. Domination is permitting her to have total control over everything about me and my life at all times.
~A.M., 47, Engaged
When I say that I want a woman to dominate me, I want her to sexually humiliate me. I initially encouraged her to dress more provocatively in both private and public. I told her that having other men look at her excited me. I then began to tell her about my fantasies of sharing her with other men. She eventually agreed to allow me to bring another man into our bed. This led to two other sexual experiences with other men and, then, she started to cuckold me with a former boyfriend of hers. This relationship both arouses me and makes me jealous, ashamed and humiliated.
~David, 50, Married
When I say I want a woman to dominate me I passionately agree that she completely takes the lead in our marriage, with me to follow and obey her.
~Monika, sissy hubby, 64, married.
When I want a woman to dominate me, I want her to control my pleasure during sex but I want her to be satisfied by me sexually. The woman takes the lead in normal life advises me and helps me figure things out in life. In return I please her by doing the household chores etc…and I worship her as my Goddess. There needs to be mutual respect between us and the domination does not end up in abuse of me as person and physically.
~E.R., 56, Married live in UK
When I say I want my wife to dominate me I want her to take control of me and my actions and train me to do what she wants. I want this to happen as I am not normally submissive and will probably require bondage and punishments to make this happen. I want to be submissive but I wasn’t brought up that way and as some subs or slaves would say, I need to be afraid of her and what she will do or what will happen to me if I don’t do what she says or wants. I really need to be used and abused to be the sub she wants. Thanks for your time.
~S.S., 55, Married
I would like a Woman who would enjoy keeping me in chastity so I may better focus on Her needs. She would have me do most of the housework, orally pleasure Her on a frequent basis, train me to take Her strapon. Essentially I would be Her male wife.
~Markus, Age 58. Divorced but hopeful
To dominate means She should make the decisions. The man waits for her decision, whether in sexual terms or in daily life, but she needs to always make all of the decisions.
~Pablo, 37, Married
When I say I want a woman to dominate me I am speaking about a tough love “motherly” type of impact. I want to be consumed by their presence. In and out of the bedroom.
~CRS 28, in a relationship
When I say I want a woman to dominate me I want her to do many things, but if she’s to be in charge the mix has to be down to her and maybe change over time. My hopes are….
– Put herself first, and expect me to put her first, in life as well as the bedroom.
– Give me the experience of pain, from time to time.
– Take charge of my orgasm, and give me the thrill of denial.
– Acknowledge these things, enjoy them, maybe even promise to love, honour and obey.
~Dan, 44, Married
When I say I want a woman to dominate me I want her to dominate me at a level that she enjoys and that won’t harm our relationship. I want to be her dream.
~Greg, 42, Married
When I say I want a dominate woman, it means I have a woman I connect with and can use my natural talents and skills in service and support of her. Connection comes before submission.
~Ben, 53 year old single submissive male who lives alone
When I talk domination I want to be sexually dominated. Feeling safe and letting all guard down in your most intimate moments, not being judged for wanting to be controlled. While still treating each other as equals in day to day life. Maybe it would turn into more after I’m comfortable but for now that’s it.
~E.T. Age 21, in a committed relationship