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13 Responses to “Why I Don’t Think Femdom Is For Me

  • Love this article. A lot of terms in here that I have never heard of. I definitely don’t want ANYONE doing ANYTHING for me that they don’t want to do. Besides, is that really LOVE, RESPECT, AND ADMIRATION if you are forcing your spouse to do them. Some things I think you can do FOR FUN not to make the other person humiliated or uncomfortable.

    • Well. In the world of BDSM that humiliation, pain and discomfort is a pleasure. I respect that. But for my personal tastes, it does not work.

      • True, and it’s definitely not for me. I can only speak for myself that some things can be a little fun, but I wouldn’t take it too far. I get no pleasure from another person’s pain even if they are getting it. But, if both ppl are for it, hey knock yourself out!

    • One has to be careful with some of these considerations. I think that for those who pursue these practices, in whole or in part, the notion that they were being damaged, that they didn’t want to do it, or are somehow not being empowered would come as a surprise.

      I wonder sometimes if communication, trust, the relationships involved, and respect do much more to drive empowerment (or the lack thereof) than the mere acts being performed?

      Interested in your thoughts.

  • My first teacher of female supremacy, Catherine Wolfe, went through the same soul searching. She arrived at the same conclusion and guess what? Her fledgling, very promising social club, The Orb And Scepter, quickly came apart!

    Why? Because if there’s nothing in the relationship for the man, he will not stay. To think otherwise is wishful thinking. Men are sexual. Attempts to work around that will never succeed.

    Femdom can be abusive or can be caring. It can be humiliating or it can be enriching. It can be aloof or it can be bonding. The couple make that decision. They decide which fantasies to play and which they will not. In my own personal life, I found Femdom to be the most intimate, bonding experience there is between myself and darling hubby.

    • Please stop comparing me to her. We are not doing the same thing. She was attempting to build a social club. I am not. I do not support the ideas of female supremacy or femdom. You are in the wrong place if you are looking for those ideas to be encouraged here. Besides, someone who woukd encourage me to LIE about who I am is not a person whose belief system I wouled ever consider. Thank you for helping me decide.

      Men get to be a part of supporting an amazing woman to achieve her greatness. That is what they get. They get to experience the love of a powerful woman who does not get her kicks from controlling another human being. She is powerful without force. He is lucky to be beside her and to experience her love and guidance and success. If you believe men need to be motivated by anything else, I suggest you start your own platform and teach them that. I do not teach that here.

  • I enjoyed your article but I was quite surprised that you made this comment in your article … “Cuckholding is when a woman has a committed partner but takes a new lover with the full knowledge of her male partner. She sometimes does it while he is right there! I actually love this practice! I love it because a man who is a cuck is completely respecting a woman’s choice to find her pleasure wherever she wants”

    If there’s one thing that would rip the marriage or relationship part it’s a threesome. It seems to be the antithesis of what you want to cultivate in a loving relationship/marriages.

    It is one thing to have a man that wants to love and serve you. It is a completely different animal for the woman to except that service but then give her most intimate love to someone else.

    And when it comes to disrespect I think this is the ultimate disrespect a woman can show a man, even if this is some warped fantasy of his.

    • Is it not true that what you are expressing here is a very personal perspective? That ‘cuckolding’ (no ‘h’) means that to you is fine. I don’t know that this version of the practice is what is meant by what is being expressed on this site, whatever one chooses to call it.

      To be precise, I don’t know that the practice of the woman, as the dominant partner, taking a lover can even be called cuckolding if it is being done with the knowledge and consent of the partner. Cuckolding requires the practice to be secret. When one knows that one’s partner is engaging in this practice, one is a ‘wittol’, not a ‘cuckold’.

      What matters most is not the semantics or labels, but the communication, trust, and respect within whatever arrangement one pursues. This practice is not for everyone — none is. It is certainly an exciting, dynamic, and empowering part of the relationships of some.

  • For a better world: Education at school must be changed! Boys should be taught in kissing Lady teachers feet for respect (and also the feet of the elder girls), several times a day! Later – when the boys are grown up – they would agree with their role and so they would be better husbands and better daddies!

    • This is awful advice in my opinion. If we force men to adhere to gender roles then we are no better then they are when they try to force women to do the same. The best thing about FLR is the freedom of CHOICE that men have to participate, not because it is expected, but because they WANT to serve and empower women.

      • This position seems to be sound. I would add that this choice is only really capable of being made when the man is also empowered, and consents to a subordination of that power in the service of the woman.

        As a society, I think we do better when we strive to become less prescriptive, and more supportive. This is true even outside the confines of an FLR.

    • For a better world we should learn to respect one another, not subjugate another group. FLR is based is all about choice. Men who chose to live in an FLR and follow and support a woman because they chose too not because they are conditioned to do so.

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