Why I Don’t Like Masochists

I was in a relationship with a masochist but I didn’t know it at the time because I didn’t know what a masochist was. All I know is this man would continually criticize me and ask me to criticize him and I couldn’t because deep down I am a very relaxed, easy going, loving soul who doesn’t need much more than hot wings with blue cheese and a good movie to be happy.

But I stuck with this guy for a while because I thought maybe he was trying to do me a favor by pointing out the things he thought I should improve. As an adult I learned that people treat you in the manner they wish to be treated. His next girlfriend treated him as though he was not good enough for her and he stayed with her for 8 years. I learned that he liked rejection and pain.

And then I start this website thinking Femdom was an interesting topic to explore. I switched over to Female Led Relationships when I realized that I wanted to focus more on the man’s service and support of the woman but then I was still bombarded by letters from men begging to be hurt, humiliated and restricted.

That energy of satisfaction through pain feels disgusting to me. The more I interacted with men like that, the more I received emails like that, the more I wanted to stop working on this project.

Finally I had enough.

I have been through some tough times alone in my life. I know what it is to be completely alone and unsupported. I know what it means to be hurt by someone intentionally and that shit doesn’t feel good to me. I am finally in a place in life where I am happy with who I am and where I am and I wake up every day still amazed that I’m finally here.

I have the luxury of not doing anything that I don’t want to do and that includes devoting myself to Conquer Him full-time. I am doing this because it pleases me to do it. I won’t be able to continue Conquer Him if the people I am interacting with are filled with a desire for pain and punishment.

I already work with a community of abuse victims as well as people who are starting over in life and don’t know where to turn and I can’t handle that energy every single day in every project that I do.

I don’t like being around people who brag about being hurt and punished by women. I prefer to be around people who feel good about their lives and feel powerful and want to laugh, have fun and feel proud that they have the skills to improve their lives and the lives of those around them.

What’s fun for you? Is it being hurt and humiliated, disciplined and dominated? If so, that’s not something we have in common and it would be best if you did not contact me because I won’t respond to that. This is not be the Female Led Relationship site you are seeking.

I know there are people out there who want to live joyful, relaxing lives with people who seek pleasure. Where are you? Reach out to me. 

I’m not a dominant. I don’t want control. I just want to be completely happy in everything that I do and if I find myself in a situation where I am not happy I don’t complain or get mad at people or try to persuade them to change, I change my situation myself.

You have to do that too. You have to be willing to look at yourself in the mirror, KNOW what you want and don’t want and be willing to say NO so that you can have the life you really want.

You have to be willing to say NO. I don’t like this.

And honestly, the majority of people who meet me do not like me. Why? Because I don’t place their happiness above my own and I never go out of my way to make sure they feel approved and accepted. I’m not looking for their acceptance either and they can tell that. Most people want you to want them to like you. I would rather fail at everything I do than beg for someone’s support or approval. Why? Winning is not that important to me. I don’t have anything to prove to myself or anyone. I already know I am a winner. With each new project I just like to see how far I can take it and how much of an impact that I can make with my intellect.

I don’t ask for permission for the shit I do, I just do it. And when I feel like stopping, I stop. I don’t owe anyone anything.

With Conquer Him I want to see if I can create a movement where men stand up and pledge their support to empower women without NEEDING anything in return and women realize that they can experience love without limits from a man who truly wants to see them prosper.

I promise you this, those who recognize greatness recognize my value and they stay to watch and learn from me. They use what I teach to get to their next level because I am not about that bullshit and I am not oppressed in any way. They don’t need my friendship. They don’t need me to like them. They just want to learn.

No. I don’t like masochists.

I don’t want any man in my life bowing his head in inferiority or intentionally pissing me off so I can take out my anger on him. I want strong people who love who they are, those who could use a little direction from me to achieve even more, those who want to join me to create their dream lives through entrepreneurship and partnering in love with an equally powerful person.

If I am the only person left standing on Conquer Him after I express my standards then so be it.

I don’t want to settle for less than what I really want just to have people around me. I know how to have fun alone and it’s not that bad.

For the rest of my life, I won’t change. I will continue to set strong boundaries, push people away who are slackers and don’t bring me joy. And I will achieve all of my dreams.

And people who like pain, the masochists, will never be a part of that. I’m happy, I like smiling and laughing and I want to stay that way. Forever.

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