What Can You Learn From AboutFLR.Com?
There is a long-standing website about Female Led Relationships called AboutFLR.Com that is no longer present on the web as of December 2018.
It seemed to be a community where they had ebooks, articles and a private way to search and message others interested in Female Led Relationships without focusing on kink.
Unfortunately, just two days after I created my profile my account was deleted. I reached out to administrators via email twice to ask why but I never received a response. Instead of wondering what happened and why I could not be a part of what they were building, I let it go.
This topic came to mind because a man recently wrote to me after confusing my site LovingFLR.Com with AboutFLR. He asked about his “reputation points” and praised AboutFLR so much that I felt a twang of sadness that I was never allowed to be a part of it.
Instead I continued to grow LovingFLR, a community based around the idea that Female Led Relationships do not require kink, BDSM or sexual control. To distinguish myself from more kink-based FLRs, I added the term LOVING and wrote a book called She WANTS: A Loving Female Led Relationship.
A Loving FLR is a relationship where the woman’s happiness is the priority and her partner willingly agrees to support her happiness. He honors her choices, even if they do not align with HIS fantasies of domination and control. He trusts that she knows what is best for them. Do you agree that the woman’s happiness is the priority in the relationship or do you require her to forcefully dominate and control?
Let me know in the comments!
Te-Erika
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Hi,
I’ve just found AboutFLR.com and initially thought I’d struck gold. Unfortunately, upon reading about what they considered to be the ‘darkside’ of FLR I am deeply offended and disappointed by what amounts to nothing but narrow-minded prejudice and sexual intolerance. I quote:
‘humiliation, sissification, extreme bondage, cruelty, and slavery while they abound on-line and [sic] not widely practiced by couples. How could they be? People need jobs, personal relationships, family, we have children, we need self worth and confidence. Think about it, how many time [sic] can someone be brutally whipped without medical/mental consequences, how would a relationship survive when a man’s self-esteem is so low he cannot perform normal tasks at work.’
I could not believe what I was reading. I could not believe such ignorance from what I hoped may be a supportive community. In answer to their question, these practices are enjoyed by couples around the world.
AboutFLR’s reasons for thinking that such
practices will prevent a man from being able to function at work is never explained.
Neither is why they think practitioners will suffer socially or experience a lack of family cohesion.
Now I know that your Conquer Him site is not concerned with such ‘Femdom’ practices, and maybe you’re not keen on them. However, I have been deeply impressed by your level of tolerance and understanding with regards to the needs of masochistic males such as myself.
For example, when I read in ‘Are You Married to a masochist?’ (April 15, 2016) that ‘I gently explain to these women that the masochistic men they are married to have a different way of receiving love’ I was deeply moved by what I consider to be a truly beautiful, uplifting and enlightened perspective. As a masochistic male, such a relationship, such practices, are key to my emotional wellbeing.
A Female Led Relationship is about so much more than whips, I agree, but ignorance and intolerance the like of which I’ve read on AboutFLR.com disgusts me. I would not worry about them deleting your account. In future I will stick to ConquerHim.com and avoid AboutFLR’s ill-informed bigotry.
Best wishes.
I like!!! that aboutflr (women’s ?) view.
FLR CAN integrate B,SM but it is something else!
Like male-led-relationships may go further of D/s to SM.
A lot of masochists unfortunately think FLR is part of SM like 24/7 TPE SM.
It is not, it is just about women “wearing the pants”, deciding the life of the couple.
So I am very glad, that side does not focus on kink, SM!
Hi! If you like the concept of FLRs without KINK o BDSM, you will LOVE my other site http://www.LovingFLR.Com. SUBSCRIBE!
About FLR is far too female orientated while hoping the men to pay much more in membership fees. Not to mention their prejudice against porn, they recently did a photo survey and if you can trust the results their members are very influenced by porn and kink!
I wish to inform you that aboutflr.com is down since last December. If looking for aboutFLR on the internet this article is what appears first on Google. You may be able to capitalize on that!!!!
AboutFLR was an amazing site if you were new to the subject and looking for information. As they were one of the first sites about FLR on the web they pretty mich got to define how FLR is seen today.
One of their central ideas was that of levels. On level 1 the woman is merely interested in FLR, while on level 4 she is in full control. „Beyond level 4“ is about applying strict femdom pressure. This system implies that true FLR is BDSM and believes in the ways a kinky man should please his domme.
I love your take instead, that simply states that her way is all that counts. That FLR is not about controlling HIM but giving HER the ability to make the choices she needs to make, to lead a happy life. His only choice is whether he wants her to be happy or not.
Thank you for putting the focus where it belongs and for working to realize the full power potential of happy and fulfilled partners under loving and enlightened female guidance.
anyone know if that site shut down?