I Am Happy Being A Servant To My Wife
My wife Jane and I dated in college, broke up, and got back together nearly 20 years later. She was rather shy, though sexually adventurous, and was intrigued by my desire to be submissive to women. By the time we met up again, she had become a very successful executive.
Nearly a decade into our marriage, we hadn’t explored the concept of a female led relationship, though I did share my submissive fantasies with Jane. About five years ago, my brother Jerry married a beautiful younger woman, Nina, who brought FLR into our lives. We soon noticed that Jerry and Nina never fought and he immediately did anything Nina asked him to.
Jane and Nina soon became friends. They discussed FLR over wine at girls’ night out. Nina was raised in the precursor to a modern FLR home. Her father was obedient to her mother. He was even deferential to Nina and her two sisters, generally following their instructions cheerfully. Nina absorbed the idea that men were to be respected, but women were to be obeyed.
Nina’s father worked long hours as a doctor, but his office, at his wife’s insistence, was only a few blocks from home. He was always available to take care of any task Nina’s mother assigned him, or to take the girls shopping or to the movies. He was also responsible for all housework, including traditional cleaning, laundry, cooking, and grocery shopping.
Nina had grown up a bit spoiled but very independent and confident. Though nearly 20 years younger than Jerry, both knew from their first date that Nina would be the commander of their marital ship. Jerry delighted in giving Nina everything she wanted. He also took over many household duties to free his beautiful bride from boredom or drudgery.
Jerry works 60 hours a week, and makes a very good living. Nina doesn’t work and spends her days working out, shopping, and having lunch with friends. She has expensive tastes, but always looks spectacular. Jerry is aware of the attention she gets from other men and isn’t jealous. Indeed he considers the flirtation between Nina and her admirers a compliment to her beauty.
Jerry’s world revolves around serving her. Many times he’s gotten home late from a business trip and stayed up well past midnight grocery shopping, doing laundry or cleaning the house. Jerry also arranges several vacation and shopping trips each year for Nina.
Traveling to locations such as New York and London, Nina sometimes invites him along, and sometimes chooses to travel with girlfriends. So far, Nina has never invited a guy to travel with her, but it seems Jerry wouldn’t mind at all. I think that, like me, he finds cuckoldry very exciting.
My wife came away from these discussions quite impressed. She isn’t intrinsically “bossy” or dominant, but the lack of conflict was appealing. She liked the orderliness of Jerry and Nina’s life. And, to be honest, she was a little jealous of the pampering Nina gets, along with her very generous budget. This gave me an opportunity to discuss Conquer Him. Jane was relieved to learn she could be pampered and appreciated without pain, fetish play or other BDSM elements that she is uncomfortable with.
We began slowly, writing up a set of tasks that I would take over, and a few little acts of pampering that I promised to perform each day: breakfast in bed, foot massage at night, and at least an hour each evening set aside to be on call for anything she wanted. For me, it was a dream come true. And I could live my life openly, sharing with my grown sons, Jane’s daughter, and Jerry and Nina.
Very quickly, we felt the conflict in our relationship diminishing. I was happy and fulfilled in the servant role I had always dreamed about. Jane felt cared for, attractive and energetic. She enjoyed having my undivided attention and obedience. Though I would love to have domestic discipline in our relationship, Jane hasn’t yet felt it necessary. Our sex life improved. And we have begun to shift more duties to me and privileges to her.
We’ve become even closer with Jerry and Nina have become even closer to us. We’ve informally come to the point where both wives know they can expect obedience from both husbands. Just last week, I took Nina shoe shopping while Jane was at the spa and Jerry out of town on business. I handled his chores for him and felt pleasantly thrilled that I had been useful to Nina. The “goddess” concept began to sink in. I redoubled my efforts to devote myself to serving Jane and Nina. I often feel that I want to get on my knees and thank them both for the honor.
Jane hasn’t yet decided whether she will want to participate in a few things that are on my wish list: dating other men (especially younger, which a looker like Jane could easily do), and giving me physical punishment for my inadequacies. We have, however, discussed “outsourcing” discipline to a professional Domme I saw prior to our marriage. I think Jane enjoys keeping me in suspense.
It’s wonderful that Jane has been able to find her own rhythm in the relationship without any coercion from you. Yes, there have been subtle hints, but Jane has been confident enough to embrace them or dismiss them according to how she sees fit.
As for her dating other men. If she chooses to do so, she will need to be a hundred per cent confident that she can depend on your support and fidelity. It is a big decision and the two of you should discuss it at length. You may think you know all there is to know about openness and honest but, believe me, it takes on a whole extra dimension if and when her lover become a reality. Wait till you hear that first knock on the door when he arrives to take her out! Be warned: Be VERY careful what you wish for. And she will need as much time as it takes. She was thoughtful and selective about choosing you, she will need to be equally so about taking a lover, especially if you both want it to develop into a long-term relationship.
I hope it all works out for you and for Jane, it can make an already beautiful FLR even more so.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful response. I agree with you on all fronts. I’m focused now on surrendering control to her, so whether she will take the dating path or not is something I will leave with her for now. While she very much enjoys sharing fantasies about it (and, quite frankly, I think enjoys teasing me with that), I think she’s very unlikely ever to want to pursue it. If so, I must accept her decision.
I’m more optimistic that she may grant my wish for physical discipline. While she isn’t into giving that, she does seem to be fine having my punishment doled out by a pro domme whom we both know and trust. I must remember that it’s her decision, but I’m excited and hopeful.
listen as submissive man my self keep your wife to your self do not make her or want her to have any other males servents but you
it will destory every thing so just server your wife
Sharing such as this helps me keep hope alive that my Knight is out there seeking his Queen.
John,
It is not yourself but your wife who should decide if she wants to be served by only you or other males as well. So selfish of you.
It is not you who decides whether your wife should date other men or not or to punish you publicly or not. You can have your own wishes but you should gradually train yourself to limit your wishes just to see her satisfied. She should be the only one who decides how she gets this satisfaction.