I Want a Bossy Woman Who Teases Me
I am a nice guy and my personality is one of a helpful nature. I have always tried to do little things to keep previous women of mine happy. I enjoy seeing a smile on my lady’s face but that is not the reason I want a Female Led Relationship.
The main driving force is sexual side, and the kink to boot! Yes, I said it…kink. Done right, a bossy woman drives me crazy, and I hope to one day find an intelligent, logical, bossy woman to call my own. I know. I know. That’s not what the women want to hear. They want to hear how happy it makes me to do the dishes and mop the floor because I love to clean that much! Well unfortunately, this is not the case. I would be more than happy to do it if there was a dominance game behind it all!
In the end, a relationship is a relationship whether it be vanilla, MLR, FLR, BDSM, straight, gay, etc; and all relationships are a give and take. Just because one is dominant and one is submissive does not mean they are a match. They should have similar interests and goals as in any relationship. My preference happens to be a dominant woman; one that is loving, caring trusting, smart, sweet, playful, and giving, but still knows how to put me in my place.
Let me start with describing the ideal bossy woman of my dreams. First, we start with everything needed for the basis of any relationship; things like common interests and compatible personalities. Most importantly, she needs to be intelligent and logical. I cannot submit to someone that bases their decisions otherwise. From there, we throw in the cute, sweet, playfulness that knows how to give orders. Essentially, she would need to be sweet and playful at heart, yet still be able to be strict and tough at the same time. I think that is the hardest part for women. I think sweet is inherent in them, and they feel bad if they ‘hurt’ their partner.
What women need to remember is that the ‘hurt’ is part of what we want. For example: I got an ex to do some tease and denial. When she first started, she would feel bad about leaving me hanging like that. It took her quite some time before she actually left me hanging and went to bed. Even then she felt bad. She did eventually get used to it and was able to deny me, but even then I think there was a small part of her that still felt bad for me.
As far as what can she do to have me wrapped around her finger, well, as I stated previously, it is the sexual side that drives my submission. That said, she would need to keep a sexual tension between us. It’s not much really, mostly just a few well-placed words here and there. Maybe a few well-placed touches also. She is constantly reminding me that she is in charge of my pleasure and she doesn’t give in often even though she acts like she might. Since she would have complete control of my buddy downstairs, I would be a puddle of a sexual mess waiting for a chance to explode. Now how can I say no to a sweetie who’s got me begging for a taste?
My FLR and tease and denial experience has been mostly in the bedroom. I have yet to find someone that understands my train of thought. It seems that I have a hard time finding that happy medium. From ads that I’ve seen, it seems like they are either over-the-top dominant or not enough. I’m sure I’ll find someone one day, just don’t know how long till that day comes.
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‘nice guy’ has it right. It is NOT a simple matter to find a woman who understands in toto. I think women are just too genteel to get the total picture. This man has a grasp of the Dominant Woman relationship most men want.
There may be a woman who fits this mold and can offer his fantasy. BUT remember, he has never even experienced his own fantasy, it’s all in his imagination. Expecting a woman to meet his standards is NOT what a true FLR is.
But it really does sound exciting and it’s not impossible. I can see why he wants to experience this.
I know how he feels, Please let me find the women who enjoys this as well?
“Expecting a woman to meet his standards is NOT what a true FLR is” – This is not about expecting a woman to meet my standards, it’s about finding someone with the same interests. Dominant and submissive does not equal match. If I feel the need to tend to woman’s feet and she doesn’t like her feet touched, we’re not a match. If she enjoys someone tending to her feet and I don’t, we’re not a match. It is still a relationship and both parties should be satisfied with their relationship, that’s all.
He has revealed the heart and soul of many sub-males and their sub-ness for better and worse……there are some women like this out there but they tend to the bi or bi-curious side, where the male’s sexuality and satisfaction is inherently just not that interesting to them……whereas in contrast most straight women have trouble with this concept as the poster himself has frustratingly experienced.
Such an important point re the fact that even in and maybe especially in kink or FLR, it is still mostly about a ‘relationship’ which means you two have to match up well along a number of different things, and when so, often the kink stuff can flow more smoothly.
I agree. Even though this isn’t the primary message I want to share on Conquer Him, I had to share it because I believe this is a very important post. It resonates with so much of what I have learned from men who want FLRs. They want their feelings to be disregarded in favor of what she wants but they want it a certain way, often sexually like the author states.
The women I meet who want FLRs care about the happiness of their partners and they don’t want to play a role like this where it seems like they don’t care. They want supportive partners that they can cherish as well. There has to be a way to connect the two. I am unsure how to do this. A woman who can callously disregard her partner’s satisfaction is rare. I have interviewed one man who had this type of relationship and it was with a lesbian woman. Oh, I have met another woman who was in this type of relationship but she was secretly submissive and only doing it because he asked her to.